Episode #12 Are You Out of Alignment? 7 Signs Why Your Reality Isn’t Matching Your Desires

Today, we’re diving into a really important conversation—how to know when you're out of alignment with what you desire.

Because here's the truth:... Manifestation isn’t just about positive thinking or vision boards. Those things are important and part of the manifestation process that I teach in the Modern Manifestation Academy, .. But manifestation comes down to alignment.

It's about the energetic match between your internal state:...your thoughts, your beliefs, your identity and the energy you show up in:.. the actions that you take, .. and the faith that you have in your ability to manifest something.

When you are aligned, life flows. ... But when you're out of alignment?...Things feel stuck, frustrating, and often like you're spinning your wheels.

In this episode, I’m going to walk you through 7 powerful signs that you're out of alignment—plus what to do to get back on track.

So grab a journal, a cozy drink, and let’s get into it.

What Does “Being in Alignment” Mean?

Let’s start with the basics—what does it mean to be “in alignment”?

Being in alignment means your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and actions are in harmony with the future you desire.

You’re energetically aligned to the version of you who already has what you’re trying to manifest.

Now, ..being out of alignment doesn’t mean you're doing something wrong. It means your current internal state and identity don’t match your desired outcome<break time = "0.4s" /> yet.

And the truth is, we ALL slip out of alignment sometimes—especially when life gets loud, distracting, or discouraging. But recognize that it is in your power to change this.

So let’s talk about the signs.

Here are 7 Signs You’re Out of Alignment.

Sign #1: You Feel Constant Resistance

You’re trying, pushing, working hard—but nothing’s flowing. That’s resistance.

Resistance feels like:

Forcing things to happen.

Overthinking.

Feeling stuck, blocked and frustrated.

It often shows up when your energy doesn’t match your intentions. You want abundance, but you’re acting from scarcity. You want love, but you’re bracing for rejection.

Course-correct by asking: “Where am I forcing instead of flowing?”

Sign #2: You Feel Disconnected From Joy

If you’ve stopped feeling joy or passion—even in things you used to love—that’s a red flag.

Joy is a manifestation magnet. When you’re in alignment, joy and enthusiasm come more naturally.

When you’re out of alignment, everything feels heavy or like a chore.

Loss of joy can be a sign from the universe that you are in need of a reinvention, that you have outgrown your current identity, ..role,.. job, ..friends, ..partner, ..city, ..or hobbies.

Either way it's likely a signal that it's time to pause and figure out how to bring your spark back.

Sometimes you lose yourself so much that you don't even know what lights you up anymore.

If your current reality doesn’t light you up, ask yourself what would? Your soul is craving more, and the next version of you is ready to come forth.

Ask yourself: “What used to light me up? Am I making space for that?”

What have I always wanted to try?

What sounds interesting, exciting and expansive?

What would I do if I knew I could not fail?

Sign #3: You’re Reacting Instead of Creating

Are you living life on autopilot? Just reacting to whatever comes your way?

When you’re in alignment, you feel powerful and that you are creating the reality in which you desire.

When you’re out of alignment, you feel that life happens TO YOU. instead of through you.

This often shows up as:

Constant distractions.

Always putting out fires.

Emotional frustrations with other people or situations.

Feeling constantly stuck and taking action out of frustration and desperation.

Feeling overwhelmed by external circumstances.

Constantly feeling like life doesn't work out for you and that you are the victim.

Staying in "woe is me, ..nothing ever goes my way, ..life is unfair" energy will only get you more of the same. Life is mirroring back to you things that match this energy.

You r reticular activating system in your brain will scan to find more evidence on how things are unfair, how things will never change, how others are in the wrong. Without realizing this, ...you will remain in this energy loop.

Now, here's a truth with a hug, as one of my coaches used to say.

It's up to you to shift your energy and choose to pivot to create the life and the results that you want.

Manifesting your dream life is your responsibility. The energy shift, the personal development, the aligned action to get you unstuck and change your trajectory are all choices that you get to make. Coaching can help you along this journey, but ultimately it starts with accepting responsibility for your own happiness and choosing to make a change.

Try this mantra: “I am the conscious creator of my life.”

Sign #4: Your Body Feels Tired, Anxious, or Unwell

Your body is a messenger. Fatigue, tension, headaches, or chronic anxiety can be somatic signs of energetic misalignment.

For example:

Digestive issues can symbolize fear or holding on.

Tight shoulders or chest? You might be carrying responsibility that isn’t yours.

If you come home feeling down, physically and mentally drained from work, then this may be the universe sending you a signal that you are no longer aligned with your purpose.

We want to feel alive in life. We want to feel good about the work we are doing.

Giving it your all, serving your clients by doing something that you love feels absolutely different at the end of the day. It's a sense of fulfilled service, a productive use of your day.

In one case, you get in bed tired, frustrated, and annoyed at yourself for another day in which you felt drained by the painful misalignment, dreading the morning in which you feel obligated to just get up and do it again.

The only true escape is the peaceful feeling of sleep, where your mind and body can have a chance to unwind.

On the other end of the stick, you get in bed and you are proud of who you showed up as, what you gave to others, and to the world, a sense of accomplishment, fulfillment, the tiredness is welcomed because you are living aligned with your purpose, values and goals.

....Do you experience anxiety at the thought of taking bold action towards your dreams? The fear and anxiety are trying to keep you playing small in your comfort zone.

Ask: “What is my body trying to tell me right now?” Is this really my intuition telling me no or is this my ego trying to hold me back from becoming the next version of myself?

Sometimes your intuition says yes, but fear holds you back. How do you know what to listen to?

Try asking yourself some questions and tune into the feelings in your body.

If that opportunity is a yes, you will feel expansive.

If it's a true no, you will feel a sense of contraction or withdrawal.

This is a simple tool that I teach my clients to use to figure out is it fear that's holding me back or is it really my gut intuition telling me no.

Tonight I want you to notice how you feel when you get in bed. What are your thoughts about how you spent your day?

Sign #5: You’re Surrounded by Misaligned People or Environments

Ever walk into a room and feel your energy drop?

Sometimes the misalignment isn’t just internal—it’s your environment.

You might be surrounded by people who don’t believe in your dreams or in spaces that reflect the old version of you.

You may be stuck playing a role that you have outgrown. Putting on a mask, an act every day, and pretending to be a version of you that no longer aligns with your soul is painful, draining and depressing.

The environments in which you live and work should ideally align and support the present and future you.

Your home environment, from the decor, the color palette, the scent, the location, the style, should make you feel calm, proud, inspired and authentic.

If you feel depressed, restricted, or overwhelmed by clutter, in a space that doesn’t represent the current or future you, then it’s time to change that.

  You may have heard that, we are the culmination of the 5 people we spend the most time with.  

Sometimes you need to let people go who don’t support your dreams, or the person you are becoming.

It’s ok to close the chapter and have friends in your life for just a season.

Remember, those people are on their own soul's journey just as you are. Let them be them and you be you. Don't expect other people to understand or even want to come along. ...You choose you.

✨ Ask: “Does this (person, apartment, job, etc.) support the future version of me—or keep me small?”

Sign #6: You’re Operating From Fear Instead of Trust

Fear shows up as doubt, control, procrastination, over-planning, staying in consumption mode rather than productive mode, needing guarantees, not making progress, delaying decisions and overanalyzing things.

When you're in alignment, you trust the process. You trust divine timing. You trust that what you desire is already on its way. The more you learn to manifest using the Align Method for Manifestation and get results the more you will trust the process and the easier it becomes.

When you are out of alignment? You're questioning everything. Remember the universe says yes and it mirrors things back to you. If you are in doubt that you will manifest what you desire then the uinverse will give you more doubt.

Shift back by choosing the emotion of trust. Even just 1% more. Help to build that muscle by Find evidence for your brain where you have trusted the universe, the manifestation process and things worked out....

Ask yourself is this fear trying to keep me small and safe or is this my intuition really telling me no.

....Another question is to ask yourself is:

what's the worst that could happen? Is this just the primitive part of my brain trying to keep me safe? Am I really going to die by doing this?

Remember that growth lies just outside our comfort zone.

Sign #7: You’ve Lost Touch With Your Vision

If you can’t remember your “why,” or your dream feels unclear or impossible, that’s misalignment.

Your vision should feel like a lighthouse—it keeps you steady even when the waves get high. If you can’t see the lighthouse, you might need to realign your energy and clarify your direction....

Your vision creates your desire to get up, to show up, and to serve.

It’s ok if your vision changes with time. To be honest, we should all be growing and evolving personally and at a soul level. I'm guessing you enjoy personal development, which is why the universe brought you here to this podcast.

You have to trust your intuition when it's guiding you or calling you to a different path. I've seen many people with professional degrees, doctoral degrees, and law degrees decide that it's a role that no longer suits them. They muster the mindset and courage to follow that nudge from the universe to take a different direction.

Let's be honest, nobody is going to get to the end of their life and say I wish I had stayed in that .job I was miserable at because it paid more.

Nope... We want to feel as though we lived, we loved, we enjoyed life, we left the world a better place by sharing our gifts to others here on the planet and for the planet.

Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy, in that you have invested too much time or money to turn back. Remember that you are the creator of your life.

You have the ability to succeed in whatever you choose.

You can choose to remain misaligned, lost, or you can choose to live a life that you feel lit up by.

Reconnect by journaling: “If anything were possible, what would the most fulfilled version of me be doing right now?”

Now let’s talk about how to Realign

Okay, so what do you do if you’re out of alignment? Here are 5 simple tools to bring you back:

Daily Visualization

See your desired life. Feel it. Breathe into it. This reprograms your subconscious and raises your vibration.

Emotional Check-In

Ask: “What am I feeling? What emotion would align more with what I desire?”

Environment Audit

Clear your space. Upgrade what surrounds you—your digital space, your physical room, your calendar. This liberates stuck energy. Remember outer order equals inner calm.

Aligned Action

Remember, manifestation requires aligned action. It's part of the Align Method of Manifestation that I teach.

  Even small actions count. When you do something in alignment with your goal, you shift your energy instantly, it creates momentum and clarity. Ask yourself, what's the next smallest step that I could take?  

Nervous System Regulation

Use breathwork, meditation, movement—whatever helps your body feel safe. If you are stressed out in survival mode you will manifest more things to be stressed about.

Ok how about some final thoughts & a soul inquiry

You don’t have to be perfect to manifest what you want. You just have to be aligned enough—consistently in who you are being, your identity choosing thoughts, emotions, and actions that reflect the reality you’re calling in.

So today, I invite you to journal on this:

Where in my life am I out of alignment?

What would alignment feel like for me?

What’s one small thing I can shift today?

If you need help, come check out The Modern Manifestation Academy, where you can learn all the science-based techniques and personal development that it takes to shift your identity. You can even join as a VIP member and get one-on-one coaching support with me.